LOVE, lust, luv

Lately, love has been a very popular subject. I don't know if its because Valentine's Day is right around the corner or what…but all I know is I'm hearing about it all the time. So, it got me to thinking…what makes love so great? What makes it real? What makes love, LOVE??

I have been thinking about writing about this subject for a while but I just never knew where to start my thoughts…I just have soo many thoughts about this subject…I've even been contradicting myself a lil when it comes to my feelings about love…lol…So, the other day, I decided that I was going to finally write about it…put my thoughts out in the open for the world ((well at least the Facebook world..lol)) to read. However, before I could be the first to start the bandwagon on the whole subject of love…the ultimate writer himself, Mr. McCall beat me to the punch! Lol…but reading his note and the comment by my girl Kandace ((crazybeautiful)) just made my thoughts come together even more and solidified the fact that I needed to write this note. To add to all the irony the sigma's held a relationship seminar the other day that talked about the difference between love, luv, and lust…THEN, to top it all off, when I got to humanities class today, my professor always gives us a word of the day…and guess what the word was?? Love. I figured that was enough signs for me…lol.

So, here it goes…
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LOVE.

What is it about love that makes people lose themselves? What is it about love that makes people go crazy?Me, personally, I believe that if you lose yourself because your in love, then that's not love. You shouldn't lose who you are because you are in love. You shouldn't change yourself for whoever you're in love with because if you are required to change then that's not real love. True unconditional love accepts you as you are, flaws and all. Its those flaws that makes someone fall in love with you, so why would u want to change that?

The Ancient Greeks identified three different types of love…one type of love was the love that you have for shoes, clothes, etc. the other type was the love that is really lust but is often confused for love, and finally the last type of love was what they called agape love. Which is the unconditional, compromising, unselfish love. A lot of people believe they are in agape love but many are not. They are in the love that is really lust. These days too many people want to be in love but they are entirely too selfish…they are not willing to put the needs of the one they "love" before their own. How many guys do you know would stay with their girlfriend if she wasn't putting out and if they did stay with her, how many wouldn't cheat on her, because he has "needs". True love, that agape love, would keep that man at home with his girl respecting her wishes to not engage in intercourse. However, that doesn't happen too often.

I also believe that love is unconditional. I believe that if your in love with your significant other and ya'll break up, the love doesn't end just because the relationship does. The love continues, it may change but it will still always remain. I know that for me, my ex-boyfriend and I have been broken up for about 4 years now, but I still have love for him, and I will always have that. It may not be the same time of love I had for him while we were together but it is still that unconditional love. The love that even though me and him aren't together anymore still wants the best for him, the love that just wants him to be happy, even if it isn't with me, the love that makes me hurt to see him hurt.

True love is not a fad, LUV is…

So many people these days just want to be able to say that their in their in a relationship and in "love" that no one really takes the time anymore to really think about what LOVE is. LOVE cannot be rushed into, it takes time before you can fall in love with someone. You have to get to know that person, and see what you can offer each other. I was always taught that you never date someone that you couldn't see yourself with in the future, because you'll just be wasting your time. Maybe that's why I'm still single…lol.

Yea, we're young and we're supposed to be having fun, but having fun doesn't mean date a whole bunch of random people! Be single and mingle. That way when you're ready for a REAL relationship you already know what you want out of it.

But, half the time so many people get into relationships without really knowing themselves and they think being in LUV will make them happy, when in actuality it doesn't. it only causes people to be bitter and unhappy because 9 times out of 10 the relationship doesn't work. Kinda like rebound relationships…

True love lasts forever.

An elderly couple at my church has been married for about 65 years….65 years people! And they look as happy as the day they met 70 years ago…(( I only know because I saw a picture..lol)) How many of you can even be with the same person for a year? How many of you get tired of them after a month? A great marriage is something that we don't see much any more, because people keep diluting love…mistaking it for lust and luv…

True real love is out there…but hard to find…

Kinda like a good man/woman..lol..you might think uve found it but in actuality its not what you thought it was...

Nuff said..

A lot of times its hard to find LOVE because people don't really allow GOD to direct them anymore. Like I said before, people just rush into things and don't wait on God. When God feels you are ready to have that person in your life, He will bring them into it. Until then just take everything one day at a time. Remember, you have to be able to love yourself before you can love someone else. You have to be able to love yourself, respect yourself, and respect your standards enough to not lower them. You have to know what you want, what you'll settle for. Make sure you love you first, so that when it's time to love someone else, it'll be balanced. This is when you can love someone fully.

**special thanks to lucius mccall for helpin me edit this note and add some extra spunk to it! thanks babe! ♥